As 2016 comes to a close I wanted to reflect back on my journey from the last 6 ½ years. In July 2010, I hit rock bottom and attempted suicide. I was found when I was only a few minutes away from succeeding in my suicide attempt. This intervention was to set the whole stage for the next 61/2 years of my life.
I spent 3 days on life support and when I came back to this world my initial response was to cry because I was still here. After that response, I came to the revelation that I had to make changes in my life. It was at that point that I decided I was either going to live as my true self or I wasn’t going to live at all. It was at that point that I jumped into the deep end of the pool and told the whole world I was Transgender.
Some of my friends and family accepted the revelation while others flipped out and moved to disown me. Some others dismissed it thinking it was a phase I was going through. However, my determination at this point quickly showed to the doubters that I was serious and within 6 months I was Living Full Time as my true self, I was on HRT, and I had legally changed my name.
Over the next 5 years my journey was very typical of so many other trans people. I faced hate, violence, and discrimination at every turn. During this time my family also came to terms with my new reality and most of them accepted me as who I am. During this period, I never hid who I was and when confronted about it I tried to educate people every chance I got on a small one to one scale.
It wasn’t until June 2015 That my journey moved from being typical to being different. It began as one of those being in the right place and the right time stories. I was talked into a Local TV station interview which ended up changing my life forever. At first I didn’t want to do it, but after several days of negotiations, I agreed to it. When they did that interview I was so nervous and scared. I couldn’t even clip the Microphone to my shirt and had to have a good friend do it for me. It was that interview though that set the stage for the next year and a half.
I have done so many wonderful things in 2016 which included attending the GLAAD Media awards in Hollywood, being at a White House Women’s Summit in Washington DC back in June, and Being part of two different apprenticeship programs. I truly credit all that I have done in 2016 to that first Interview.
The one thing that the last year and a half has taught me is that regardless how hard your life may seem it only takes one event to turn it around. If I can turn my life around after all I have been through then anyone can do the same.
I want to wish everyone happy holidays and a happy new year and hope that 2017 is your year to make a difference.